I took my now wife window shopping for rings when we were getting close to engagement time so that I’d know what she would want. It was clear that the answer was gonna be yes no matter what, but I knew she’d have a ring preference anyway. She saw prices and explicitly said that she’d like white sapphire on sterling silver. I found a bridal set that she adores which very much did not cost a month or two of salary.
Because we didn’t blow a ton of money on engagement/wedding shit, we’ve had much more resources to support the marriage itself. I’ve heard of regular everyday people spending $3-4k on a fucking ring. We spent 9 days in a few different places in Spain for about that cost instead lol.
Nice. Congrats! Similar take here – my fiancee and I recently found a vintage setting acquired from an estate sale, plus a stone of her choosing (Labradorite), at a local family-owned jeweler. We ended up with a much more substantial and unique piece, spent way less money, limited our involvement in a predatory trade, and we’re gonna put that savings toward a nice experience together.
Don’t marry women too materialistic to accept this, loving diamonds is a big red flag imo
Meh, I wouldn’t say that, but loving diamonds after learning how that market works and the bullshit around it? Definitely an orange flag
Eh, I’m not sure I would say that. Someone can love/appr ciate and want something even knowing that procuring the thing has ethical problems. Desiring something isn’t the same as being okay with the problems that come with acquiring it. It’s the being okay with procuring a diamond despite the ethical problems and bullshit that would be a massive red flag to me.
For myself, I’d be having serious second thoughts about a relationship with a person who felt an expensive ring was somehow necessary. But merely wanting it, particularly if out of a sense of tradition or symbolism rather than as some silly signal of wealth, wouldn’t perturb me.
All this comment chain is telling me that everyone in this chain above me has a woman they want to redeem for her love of something questionable, lol. Your morals are soft cuz she gets you hard :p
I feel like we were saying the opposite? I am not in any sort of relationship presently.
Get her welsh gold instead
Give her some sugar cane and bananas.
Tough shit she still wants that drill bit for Christmas
Oh she’ll get drilled for a bit, that’s for sure
There are a lot of cool minerals out there that don’t make you go bankrupt if you purchase them.
Moissanite ftw
Those semi rare gems are the best.
As pretty as the ruby/diamond/emrald stones, but without the absurd costs.
Moissanite has better sparkle and fire than diamond. It literally looks better! And as the article says, it’s mostly about the setting more than the stone
Most of people are happy with shiny thing that won’t start to look cheap as they wear off. We can’t all of us be jeweler after all.
Ruby etc. is dirt cheap?
Moissanite is the absolute best.
I bought my mom two sets of moissanite jewelry for generic winter holiday times this year! Matching necklace and earrings!
Moissanite is extra sparkly compared to diamonds too
I remember watching a yt short comapring diamond and moissanite and the guy said at the end something along the lines of don’t buy moissanite because idlf you heat it up and then cool it with ice it becomes fragile.
The best thing was that the comments were all hating on him for so obviously being a diamond industry shill becaue he displayed all the advantages of moissanite and then said to buy diamonds. He got ripped a new one.
You love to see it
Moissanite: chemical formula SiC, not pure carbon. 60/100
Lonsdaleite: chemical formula C, pure carbon, hexagonal crystal structure, naturally created by meteorite impacts, synthetic versions are harder than diamonds. Awesome/100.
looks sadly at his angle grinder blade for concrete
Just buy the fucking fake diamonds 90% the same, but less fucking slave labor and 1/100th of the price
They are actually better as they are more pure
Just microwave some ruby
Instructions unclear: Went too far and now have neutronium.
My wife’s ring: Rose gold with moonstone inlays
My ring: Black ceramic with dyed dinosaur bone
Gold/diamond is so fucking old school boring, you know?
Sure, neither of us can ever resize our rings, but I have a dino bone ring so like, whatever
What dinosaur
Great question, I can’t ever remember because my wife got it for me and I never saw the actual information about the thing, I could probably ask her to find the original blacksmiths shop and get the info
I think it’s one of the b ones, it’s a super common fossil to find in Wyoming or whatever state is known for shit tons of fossils everywhere, I’m very high rn and can’t remember shit
“ill buy you a diamond if you buy me an equally-expensive gaming pc”
“never mind”
Do you know how many different minerals and rocks they are in there? She will ask from the whole body set.
You could convincing her well if enough gold carat. Plenty of ways to waste your money on materialism or invest into your family finance futur (depending how you see it.)
Am girl
Just grow em in a lab. Dirt diamonds are for boomers.
If you really love me, you’ll cut off a pound of flesh, cremate it, and use the ashes to make a diamond.
I don’t think she does.
In case anyone needs to hear it: big red flag for lots of reasons. Don’t put yourself through a relationship like that. Find someone who wants you for you.
Can’t I just punch myself in the face to demonstrate my love and call it a proposal instead?
Use that money to improve the honeymoon instead of an artificially expensive rock?
No, because the wealth and status on display is exactly the point for some women. Especially with social media it becomes a competition to get the most. It’s honestly not that far from how some men really like to show off their expensive car as a sign of success.
