Ya it’s hard but start with looking at your local communities, participate, etc.
Why summon Baphomet if you can buy a doll?
I’ve recently found that it is way easier in your thirties to make friends with 70 year olds. They have time to meet whenever you are available, have great perspective and in my case, share more if my interests than people my age.
Try gardening groups, dancing lessons, bridge groups, local language classes, and you’ll find tons of friends!
This is basically the plot of Breaking Bad.
Walter was in his 40s at the beginning of the series.Walter was almost in his 40s at the beginning of the series.
Went back and checked: Walter was 50 at the start of the series. The series spanned two years of in-universe time, and he died at 52.
Anyway, the point stands. Cooking meth is a valid shared interest for an older man and a younger man to bond over.
Damn, a lot of shit happened in only two years
Actually, you’re right, but it couldn’t be closer. The show starts at 5:02AM on his fiftieth birthday.
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It’s not impossible, that’s exactly how I was summoned
Meeh, not really impossible, but damn hard, that’s for sure.
I’m here, aren’t I?
Lol, it was by mistake, I posted the same, but as a reply to the post.
Meeh, not really impossible, but damn hard, that’s for sure.
We can be friends OP
You think THAT’S hard? Try it as a childless 40yo with ADHD and social anxiety! I’d be SO fucked if I didn’t already have friends 😂
The problem is the other people in their 30s are boring, miserable, and second-guessing their life choices constantly. Even if they made the effort to be friends, I couldn’t stand them. The only people that don’t do that are my friends…my old friends…in my old city…far, far away… Oh, god I’m miserable and second guessing moving here.
My 30s were so so so much better than my 20s, it wasn’t even funny. I partied practically non-stop from the point my 1st marriage ended in my early 30s, to when my 2nd one began at 41. I made tons of new friends, dated around a lot and had the best time of my life.
Now that I have 2 kids, a stressful job and my money evaporates the moment it hits my bank account, I also have lost all my friends. The only ones I have now are other adults with kids around the same age as my kids, because that’s pretty much the only time you get to socialize with other adults.
The secret is: hang out with people younger than yourself and/or get involved in a scene. I’m a musician so I just went to shows or met people at mine. It doesn’t have to be that though, I also joined a volleyball team and while I stunk up the joint, I also got to meet a bunch of cool people. Really most friendships are based on proximity and common interest, so if you’re into movies, go to movie festivals or special showings. Go to meetups, get involved in a political campaign (if you’re political).
That’s my experience and advice too. I just naturally find friends that are on average 15 years younger than me. I’m early 50s and most friends are mid-30s. Working at a university for years sort of established that pattern and it has remained even though i went corporate.
I mean, have you met US Americans in their 50s? For me it’s the lack of imagination they tend to exhibit. I’m a perpetual child myself, no kids, no plans or desire for any. Younger friends have interests and dreams, still. I do too!
I find the quiet desperation that oozes from people in my age cohort to be off putting. If you are desperate, stop being quiet about it!
Having younger friends keeps me optimistic because younger generations seem to have looked behind the curtain and have partially deconstructed the illusions we are ruled by. Maybe there’s hope?
There’s a Rancid lyric that stuck with me:
“Some grow up, and some grow old”
I grew old.
Get friends younger/older than you then.
I have 1 friend who I am capable of seeing irl on a regular basis, the rest dozen of them are all from back in the day and are literally scattered around the world.
Which cities did you move from and to?
You could join a club (sports or what ever you like).
Yeah or some type of meetup group. Or even something political if that’s your thing.
Volunteering also works
i’m 26 but i simply choose to not care anymore
it works 83% of the time
I’m an introvert, I never cared works 100% of the time
If anyone needs a friend, I’m here!
Add getting disabled at 34 to the equation.
People just don’t like you when you have MS.
Fuck that, I like you.
I like you!
MS ?
“Multiple sclerosis (MS) is the most common demyelinating disease,[8] in which the insulating covers of nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord are damaged.[3] This damage disrupts the ability of parts of the nervous system to transmit signals, resulting in a range of signs and symptoms, including physical, mental, and sometimes psychiatric problems.” https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiple_sclerosis
Multiple Sclerosis
It isn’t too hard if you’re willing to fail a lot first. It takes time, but I really turned my life around eventually. Even still I feel like an imposter, but an imposter with plenty friends anyway now
Donno sounds like a lot of work, I’d rather just be lonely
I mean I don’t WANT to be lonely, but it’s much easier, eh?
Exactly, I’m lazy and most humans suck
If you want to meet people and make friends, you have to join a group first. It’s awful. It’s stressful. But you have to join a group of some kind. That’s where IRL people are.
Hello, it’s me, your fellow group mate
I mean, it’s how I made friends when I was a child. I suppose the time crunch is what makes it seem impossible.
What about 40’s?
People over 40 are not allowed on the internet. They can’t tell us.
Oh. I’ll be off then.😔
It’s what you would say if you were over 40! Haha 😅 Right? They’re just joking, officers, don’t worry! 😁🤐
