My case was a bit more complicated than my previous post outlined. After a year or so of dilating, and having difficulties, I went back to my surgeon for a followup when I was supporting a friend who was having surgery with the same surgeon.
He had a look at things, and confirmed the presence of scarring causing the issue, but his examination also triggered something like vaginismus, and it became impossible for me to dilate with anything but the smallest dilator for a month or so after. By the time that issue resolved, I had lost more depth and girth from the lack of meaningful dilation. So I spent some time trying to regain what I had lost, but ultimately getting back to where I was before the vaginismus would have taken months, with no guarantees of success, but given that even full success was back to a starting point that wasn’t working for me, it become really hard to keep dilating.
And then covid happened, and my surgeon cleared his lists and stopped taking bookings. I wasn’t able to have penetrative sex anyway even before any of this happened, so at that point, I couldn’t see the point in continuing.
It was a pretty big deal for me, and it left me feeling crushed. But, the way I looked at it was that even though I couldn’t have the sex life I had hoped for, that was also true before I had bottom surgery, but bottom surgery left me feeling comfortable in my body in a way I’d never had access to before, so I was still better off than where I started, even if I didn’t end up where I had hoped to.
Not contractions, more like a permanent contraction. Well, semi permanent, as it resolved eventually. But until then, it was contracted tight 24/7
My surgeon retired, as did one of the others, leaving a single Australian surgeon with a long wait list, with no guarantees he could fix it, especially given it was another surgeons work. In theory though, I could get PPV with him, but still an uncertain outcome at the end of a long wait list.
In theory I’ll do it one day, but the older I get, the less likely I’ll bother
Heh. That’s me with the benefit of time. When I was going through it, I didn’t have a healthy adaptive mindset