I am 27 years old and I am a single mother of a 12 year old son (Yes I had him at 15). I have been single for a few years now ever since I left my son’s biological father who used to abuse me physically/sexually. He developed alcohol problems later in our relationship and he could barely keep a job, and he ended up developing extreme anger issues as a result. His abuse was mostly behind closed doors and never in front of my son. A few years later now, he calls me from another number explaining how he finished rehab, meets with a therapist weekly, and meditates every morning. He apologized a ton and he only asked to meet with my son and I in a casual environment to check up on us. (He explicitly said he doesn’t expect me to forgive him). I have not and will never forgive him, nor will I ever re-enter a relationship with him, but he does sound like a different person, so should I meet with him?
First, good on you for not forgiving him. Some things are not forgivable, and if you don’t want to meet him you are not obligated to. You are not obligated to expose your son to someone who is abusive.
If you do choose to meet him, do not take your son. Take a trusted friend instead, and get their opinion on whether there should be any additional contact with you or your son.
I recommend not meeting him based on your post.