Same. It’s amazing how much is normalized in the kink community that is dreams and fantasy for vanilla folks. More people should take a peek at what we’ve been up to.
I haven’t really participated in any scenes where partners have focused on someone other than me.
Not because I’m greedy or weird or anything - I just have had an odd series of fails.
I had a play partner ignore the rules of the scene before fucking happened, so the scene ended. In another, someone drank too much, so we all cuddled and made a nice breakfast the next day. In one, a normie learned a planned play partner was kinky at the bar and his version of flirting traumatized her - because I guess he thought that because she was up for fun with some people, she was up for fun with anyone. (He kept trying to grab her phone when she was showing others photos she didn’t want him to see. She was pretty subby/didn’t want to speak up, and he was using the table as cover to put his hands on her legs until she got triggered and literally ran crying to the bathroom. He was a friend of a friend, and was very clearly instructed not to speak to another person and leave immediately as soon as we figured out what was happening/that she just wanted it to stop/didn’t want to press charges.)
Consent. Gotta make sure people are willing participants in whatever fantasy you have in your head.
Yeah, but I’m polyamorous and kinky.
I’ve been a part of group sex where I was taking a breather or just at a play party.
Same. It’s amazing how much is normalized in the kink community that is dreams and fantasy for vanilla folks. More people should take a peek at what we’ve been up to.
Is there a particular position you most enjoy watching your significant other fuck?
Kinda N/A.
I haven’t really participated in any scenes where partners have focused on someone other than me.
Not because I’m greedy or weird or anything - I just have had an odd series of fails.
I had a play partner ignore the rules of the scene before fucking happened, so the scene ended. In another, someone drank too much, so we all cuddled and made a nice breakfast the next day. In one, a normie learned a planned play partner was kinky at the bar and his version of flirting traumatized her - because I guess he thought that because she was up for fun with some people, she was up for fun with anyone. (He kept trying to grab her phone when she was showing others photos she didn’t want him to see. She was pretty subby/didn’t want to speak up, and he was using the table as cover to put his hands on her legs until she got triggered and literally ran crying to the bathroom. He was a friend of a friend, and was very clearly instructed not to speak to another person and leave immediately as soon as we figured out what was happening/that she just wanted it to stop/didn’t want to press charges.)
Consent. Gotta make sure people are willing participants in whatever fantasy you have in your head.
Sounds really complicated. Seems to only work with 2 married couples who are just up for some sex without any mental drama
Relationships take work. Regardless of the relationship. :)
On the sexual side the first step is to recognized the difference between love and sex. Sex is just a fun physical activity.