I think @[email protected] covered it best - its something you should both want.

To add to it, you can explore the ideas with some dirty talk with just the two of you, toys, even romance/erotic novels - the important part is to discuss before and after, talk about feelings and what is appealing, as well as (almost more importantly) what is not appealing.

That said, emotions are a funny thing, and you can’t know exactly how you’d feel until its actually happening. Good discussing can help, as well as being able to express yourself clearly in the moment.

Good luck!