I dunno if this is the right place for this, but I was curious. I joined Beehaw during the Great Reddit API migration, a few years ago at this point. I couldn’t put a finger on why but I wanted to join a queer-friendly space. It just seemed like a good place to be, somewhere that seemed to have goals of inclusivity and being kind to one another that I thought sounded good. I wanted to belong somewhere like this place seems to want to be.

Then, years later, in Nov of 2024 my egg absolutely shattered and I came out to myself as trans. Then I just realized this morning that the timeline is kinda funny to me. Thought I’d ask and see how common that pattern was.

  • My parents are lesbians, so I’ve been at least somewhat involve in LGBT groups since I was a young child, so not really surprising I felt some unity with the queer community regardless of whatever my own particular gender or sexuality was (which I assumed to be “technically cis” and “technically het” for the longest time). But yeah, I found myself frequently preferring queer online communities, particularly leaning towards those with lots of trans fems.

    I already realized my queerness before the reddit exodus though. Twitch was the main website where I found myself in like 95%+ queer spaces for years before realizing.