have been wondering recently what my blind spots are, what are beliefs I have that are unexamined or based on too little evidence for how much I believe them …

maybe there are common patterns, that people commonly believe false things and I might be challenged in my own beliefs this way

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠
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    153 days ago

    I believe my wife loves me, even though she’s unable or unwilling to articulate why. There’s a song she likes where the chorus goes “I don’t know why I love you, I just do”, a sentiment she finds romantic and I find vaguely terrifying.

    • @[email protected]
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      192 days ago

      I would submit that our culture is severely deluded in thinking that conscious reasoning is behind most of our actions and reactions to things. If you like a thing, and have reasons why, those are generally rationalizations to explain why, after the fact, not actually how you got there.

    • Your’s, too?

      Actually, I have some data points. My wife grew up in a family of women: two sisters, a mother, and a bum dad who disappeared when she was a kid. Once, early in our relationship, my wife asked for help moving a heavy box. I walked over, picked it up, and moved it for her. She just sort of stood there with her mouth open and then said, “how did you do that??” I said, “man 🤷‍♂️”. She said, “that’s so hot.”

      But, yeah. I often feel like I got the better part of the deal.