• stankmut
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    44 days ago

    Alright, I see the problem. I’m describing how some men literally spread their arms across the back of multiple seats and how some men literally spread their legs out so that each knee is blocking access to each seat beside the and you are interpreting that as people complaining about guys being allowed to use their armrests. No one is complaining that you take up physical space. They are complaining that you are spread out in a way that blocks access to the space around you that you don’t need. If you don’t sit down and spread your knees wide enough to block access to the seats next to you, then the term manspreading doesn’t apply to you.

    • @[email protected]
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      94 days ago

      So taking up unnecessary public space is something particular to men? Do all men do this, or just only men?

      Or are we gendering bad behavior to win internet points?

      • @[email protected]
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        44 days ago

        Trans woman who pays a bit more attention to mannerisms than most people, both in men and women.

        1. Yes, it’s a real thing
        2. It’s at least 90% men, and I’m being generous
        3. It’s not most men that do it (especially in the sillier ways)
        4. Size matters not

        Picture a teenager in black sweatpants and a hoodie, on his own in a bus. That’s the most common I think. It’s generally men who try to project an image of strong masculinity or coolness. They don’t really do it with other people because it’s silly. It might be an unconscious thing, idk. It still looks stupid. It’s mostly men because it’s a masculinity thing.

        It’s great if you don’t do it, and I wouldn’t be surprised at all if you didn’t. But there very much is a type of guy who does it. And there is no common type of woman for that specific behavior.

        • @[email protected]
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          24 days ago

          Doesn’t match my experience but I appreciate you sharing your perspective.

          Sadly, my experience is that post-covid everyone is always rude and selfish and oblivious to others. People seem to love standing three-across on sidewalks or in doorways for a LONG time.

          I just came from Costco where EVERYONE leaves their carts perpendicular across aisles regardless of their genital configuration or gender presentation.

          I’m beginning to enjoy ramming them out of the way.