• @[email protected]
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    53 days ago

    That explanation requires prior knowledge or post hoc knowledge otherwise you’re simply saying it’s based on sex or race.

    How is this substantially different then screeching “dei” at every minority that mildly inconveniences you?

    • Beesbeesbees
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      113 days ago

      I just gave you a behavioral definition with examples and non-examples. I’m sorry, I don’t know how else to simplify it. I can only assume you’re willfully not understanding. Have a good day.

      • @[email protected]
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        53 days ago

        I’m sorry, I don’t know how else to simplify it.

        Maybe if you were a man, you could explain it better.

        /s

        • @[email protected]
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          23 days ago

          Yeah because clearly seeking understanding means I’m a bigot and yes I see your /s and I’ll say that doesn’t make it much less of a shitty thing to imply.

          • @[email protected]
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            33 days ago

            my /s was to show that this is the sad joke line someone would actually say like it was a truth. I’m on your side…

            • @[email protected]
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              33 days ago

              I understand that I still don’t enjoy mean spirited comments shallowly veiled with a claim of sarcasm. Here especially if doesn’t help because I’m not trying to be mean I’m legitimately trying to figure out how people parse that distinction or on their heads because to me they’re the exact same bigoted trash.

      • @[email protected]
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        33 days ago

        That’s a neat dodge. How is it different then assuming someone is a dei hire instead of simply an incompetent employee?

    • @[email protected]
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      103 days ago

      It wasn’t an explanation about how to assess whether someone is mansplaining or not – it was a definition of what mansplaining is.

      • @[email protected]
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        33 days ago

        Yeah and I’m asking them to use their definition in comparison, how exactly is saying “he’s mansplaining” substantially different then “dei hire”.

        • @[email protected]
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          73 days ago

          Yeah and I’m asking them to use their definition in comparison

          To be clear, no you weren’t. Hence the confusion.

          But since you’ve clarified: obviously using any term to unfairly accuse someone of being or doing something is a bad thing. Is that a real question?

          • @[email protected]
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            23 days ago

            That’s exactly what I was doing hence the twice repeated question, you can claim a lot of things but that isn’t one that has legs.

            Correct, both are based on assumptions that are as offensive as the assumption that they’re mansplaining or a dei hire or whatever.

            My point is that you can’t use either without yourself being bigoted enough to come to a conclusion based on bigoted assumptions so how are they substantially different?

            • @[email protected]
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              73 days ago

              Them:

              Definition of “Mansplaining”

              You:

              Isn’t that misandry to assume the man is a sexist

              That explanation requires prior knowledge or post hoc knowledge

              They didn’t make any assumptions, nor did they explain anything that “requires prior knowledge” – because they gave a definition of a term, not a scenario. Your questioning only makes sense if they were talking about a scenario. It makes no sense as a follow up to a definition.

              Anyways, that’s just meta noise.

              Correct, both are based on assumptions that are as offensive as the assumption that they’re mansplaining or a dei hire or whatever.

              My point is that you can’t use either without yourself being bigoted enough to come to a conclusion based on bigoted assumptions so how are they substantially different?

              You’re free to call women bigoted for how they feel about their lived experience regarding condescension from men. Just as I’m free to judge that as incel behaviour.

              • @[email protected]
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                33 days ago

                Yes the way they defined is use requires someone to know the intent of the speaker which means they know them or they’re simply assuming and my assertion is that isn’t substantially different then assuming someone doesn’t know something because of their sex.

                And you can call someone bigoted for saying something in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable solely based on their sex. I don’t see the difference.

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                  But you can’t callout a man for being misogynistically condescending to a woman. Got it.

                  • @[email protected]
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                    33 days ago

                    I’d love to know how seeking clarification implies your my or anyone else’s ability to say what they want. I know I haven’t said or knows that at worst all I want is to know how making assumptions based on sex isn’t bigoted. I get how condescending to someone because they are a woman is bigoted, can you see how assuming someone is a bigot rather than ignorant based solely on their sex is by definition bigoted?