So your advice is to allow myself to be blackmailed. “If you loved me, you’d waste months worth of pay on a shiny rock I’m going to completely take for granted.” Fuck off.
Apparently I married a unicorn. She explicitly didn’t want a diamond but a sapphire and explicitly didn’t want me to spend a fortune on it. Got her ring from an online jeweler on sale. Paid less than $300 for it. During the first Trump admin. We had talked about what she wanted and I found something close after shopping around. Then I held onto it for six months planning when to ask.
Did I ever say to buy someone a ring? I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and we don’t even know if we want to get married, so i am absolutely not telling anyone else whether they should get engaged. What I do know is marriage wouldnt change my relationship because marriage doesn’t make love.
Being vulnerable has nothing to do with money. Becoming vulnerable does mean opening yourself up to possible hurt, but nothing that good comes without taking some kind of risk. Being risk averse will keep you from getting hurt, but it would also serve as a barrier to one of the best things in life you could experience. Also, platonic love is a thing, this doesn’t have to be romantic yknow. It could be as little as telling a friend about your feelings.
So your advice is to allow myself to be blackmailed. “If you loved me, you’d waste months worth of pay on a shiny rock I’m going to completely take for granted.” Fuck off.
Apparently I married a unicorn. She explicitly didn’t want a diamond but a sapphire and explicitly didn’t want me to spend a fortune on it. Got her ring from an online jeweler on sale. Paid less than $300 for it. During the first Trump admin. We had talked about what she wanted and I found something close after shopping around. Then I held onto it for six months planning when to ask.
Did I ever say to buy someone a ring? I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and we don’t even know if we want to get married, so i am absolutely not telling anyone else whether they should get engaged. What I do know is marriage wouldnt change my relationship because marriage doesn’t make love.
Being vulnerable has nothing to do with money. Becoming vulnerable does mean opening yourself up to possible hurt, but nothing that good comes without taking some kind of risk. Being risk averse will keep you from getting hurt, but it would also serve as a barrier to one of the best things in life you could experience. Also, platonic love is a thing, this doesn’t have to be romantic yknow. It could be as little as telling a friend about your feelings.