so i (f) recently got into a talking stage with “isla” (nb) and we kinda have a “slow burn” type thing going on. i’m lowkey scared because they really do wanna decide if we should be friends or be in a relationship. i really like them and want a relationship with someone and also don’t want to rush. last time i rushed, things went badly and ended in a few months.
i’m scared, though, they will decide i’m a better friend than a gf, though there are some good signs like them at least having feelings for me.
i know we’ll still get to chat if they decide we should just be friends but i guess i’m just scared for whatever reason. i don’t mean to be panicky, i guess i’d just like to have someone who’s more than a friend.
Growlers: Try Hard Fool
https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=QFTmEfWyzvY
Heres a song i listen to when im feeling anxious.
Putting too much thought and energy into these things can often backfire. Dont stop pushing the issue enrirely because if you arent comfortable at arms length, thats a discussion you need to have with isla for sure. But isla also needs (probably alot) time to figure out how they feel. its up to you to determine if its worth waiting and if isla actually intends to follow through.