What is an extroverted introvert?

It is a made up meme to explain the fact that almost no one is really extroverted or introverted. meyers-briggs, which is unscientific and was just made up by some dumbass who said “I think humans be like this”, says all people are either extroverts or introverts. But in reality, one’s level of extroversion or introversion depends heavily on environmental factors such as overall energy level or level of comfort with a particular person/group. To the extent that extroversion is a measurable, stable personality trait at all, when it is measured it fits a bell curve across the population - ie, the vast majority of people land smack dab in the middle of extroverted/introverted.

So if you say you are an extroverted introvert, you’re just saying you’re a normal fucking person. It comes from people accepting Meyers-Briggs as hard fact (it isn’t), and then trying to fit this square peg into the round hole of their actual lived experience.

It’s not hard to get a test you just need to grow yourself a money tree.

Exactly! I mean, my son has an autism diagnosis, and my wife has ADS, and my best friend has both, and I work in a field where almost everyone is diagnosed with something, but surely I am normal, because no one diagnosed me. Yet.

My cousin is certified extrovert. She basically always „needs“ someone to talk to on family gatherings. I think she’s fine being alone, but if there’s a person she will talk to them.

If there’s someone telling a story and she’s not too invested she will open a parallel conversation.

Sometimes I wonder if anybody even is absolutely one or the other at all times and circumstances.

Well, absolutely not. I thought it’s pretty obvious that this is more like a scale were you fall somewhere between one and the other. Also, those words don’t really have any rigorous definitions.

Yes, how you socialize and how much it drains you are affected by whether or not you’re autistic and/or ADHD.

People who are naturally outgoing but also autistic/ADHD have the same drive to go out and interact with people, but due to differences in how they act/perceive the world wind up much more drained from the experience (either from sensory overstimulation or anxiety from people being unpredictable). This often leads to seeking out socialization less, even though they are just as desperate for it as anyone else who is naturally more extroverted.

And instead of typing up a paragraph every time they want to talk about it, they say introverted extrovert.

There are a bunch of different definitions people use for introversion/extroversion. “Extroverted introvert” means you’re extroverted by one definition and introverted by a different one.

An extrovert with social anxiety.

Someone who is too introspective for their own good

I’m a huge introvert, but if I can get past the initial hurdle of getting my ass motivated to actually meet with people, I have a good time. I’ve also been in sales/public facing jobs for most of my working life, which blows people away when they realize how antisocial I can be. I mask very well.

Most of the time, it’s how much juice is left in my social battery that dictates what I end up doing. I will avoid my best friends of 20+ years if I’m not in the mood.

It’s a way of describing that a person is willing to join social interaction, but also enjoys alone time

Ive always referred to myself as a social introvert. Ill go to social events, have fun, but boy is it exhausting and id rather spend time home alone doing nothing

I think it’s someone who is actually extroverted, but do to being cast out as “weird”, is now reluctant to talk to people despite their extraversion, and therefore thinks they’re introverted.

This describes my case perfectly. I am extroverted, but due to people finding me weird, I was scared of talking to people, and mistook it for introversion. I am now way more outgoing than before once I figured it out, and people care a bit less about you being weird if you’re likeable once you’re older.