Been struggling alot recently. . Trying to get over someone special and friends tell me “she’s just another girl”. I get they mean well, but sometimes she isn’t just another girl. How do you convince yourself it isn’t the end?
Math and logic. Plain and simple.
Go to a concert with a hundred people. You might find a dozen women attractive.
Multiply that.
How do you convince yourself it isn’t the end?
You don’t. You just go on with your life. Eventually they fade into a distant memory. Not today. Not tomorrow. Not even next week or next month. But eventually they do. The best thing you can do is focus on doing things that make you happy and living your best life. The rest of the healing will come on its own.
I’m in a bit of a similar situation too.
You just have to move on. Try to remind yourself of the bad memories when the good ones come up. Sometimes that helps.
Unfortunately the biggest way to let go is to find someone new to replace them. She replaced someone else who I couldn’t let go of and now I don’t ever think of that person anymore.
You really haven’t given us much to go on here.
Were you in a relationship? For how long?
Also, what sort of age group are we talking here? Your options and perspectives are likely to be different if you are in your teens vs 20s vs 30s, etc.
We never dated but I loved her. I’m 22M
Mate, going to say this honestly and directly.
You loved the idea of her in your head. And that idea took over.
She didn’t share the same feelings and now you’re running off emotions, rather than logic.
Spend a week recovering, then move on.
You get over her by realizing that investing your happiness in one single other person is a losing proposition.
Invest in yourself. Figure out what you want in life, then go live that life. Build up a supportive group of excellent friends. Then go date a ton of women. And you’ll realize she was just another girl.
She actually was just another girl
Therapy or counseling
