Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
One homicide might be an accident, once someone’s over a dozen I wouldn’t want them in my house.
I suppose it depends if it’s a hobby or a professional gig.
I know for a fact my wife has a higher count than I do, how much more? No clue, because I never asked and it doesn’t matter.
Everything she’s done up until I met her, made her the woman I love today.
don’t care. I’ve never even asked a woman how many people she’s been with. It’s none of my business.
Body count is stupid.
As long as someone is honest with you, cares about you, and gotten tested so they aren’t spreading anything… who honestly gives a shit?
Not a factor at all, but using the term “body count” is enough on its own to lose interest.
Very mature of you to have an appropriate age bracket of 40+ only
Oh, everyone under 40 is sexually hung up? I got to tell you, things are not much better on this side of 40.
If you have a problem with the number of people your partner slept with prior to meeting you, you really shouldn’t be dating, as you need therapy to work through your issues before you start mucking about with other people.
Wow.
I don’t ask for that information. As long as he has shown himself to be a good, loyal partner, his sexual past wouldn’t matter to me unless he did something unethical to achieve it.
It’s situational, but a very high number of past partners could correlate with unethical behavior in the past and/or some issues making healthy connections with others. It would be worthy of a discussion, but probably more broadly about past experiences and relationships rather than “body count.”
You could also say you don’t care how much money your partner has, but if they’re a billionaire you might want to know more about how they got there.
If there are no STI’s involved, I fail to see how it’s anyone else’s business. Unless your partner decides to willingly divulge this info, of course.
Not a deal breaker at all :3
Honestly makes it more fun uwu
I’m not sure I understand the question. What is STI and in what context should I understand ‘body count’?
Is it sexual partners? If that is so, I don’t give a f… I mean, I don’t care. It’s not some hunting competition, at least not for me or for my spouse.
The only thing I would care is us, my partner and I, being honest about anything happening that could jeopardize our relationship. Including any past or present adventures.
Sexually Transmitted Illness I believe.
If this is in any other context than sex, I’m concerned
Is driving a fast Subaru a dealbreaker?
I know for a fact that I am completely comfortable with low double digits and the numbers really aren’t that important. I’m not a high scorer by any means, but never really thought about the numbers. Can’t remember ever asking for a count.
For me, I don’t care to know the details of their past relationships. It’s none of my business. If anything, sharing body counts is just another way to shame a partner for something that should not be held against anyone. So what if she sucked 37 dicks? Doesn’t matter if it was in a row or not.
Opposite. I would strongly prefer an experienced partner. So I guess I’d have a minimum, and not sure if I’d have a max. Though I also haven’t ever “counted” so I would find it odd if someone with a lot of partners had kept count.
So “body count” in American English means murders in most contexts. Making this question rather confusing at first.
I can’t answer the first question because my wife and I both have counts of 1: each other. The second question…if I had an issue I would make that clear before a first date of it was indeed a deal breaker.
Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.
Because a linguistic association between sex and murder is so adorable, especially when it comes from kids!
Not only do I not mind, I would hope that my perspective partner would have enough sexual experience so that we would both enjoy ourselves.
