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I have one of those weeks in which when I try to switch up my gender expression I feel like a fake. It is sometimes fun to just mirror some looks from historical media references, you know? Then again I am feeling comfortable with myself and don’t really care much about conforming with my expressions as the circles I am kinda make me feel fine and not pressured to conform, which means it is chill.
So I am basically happy with myself and yet feel as if I ought to feel negative about myself to be “allowed” to do what I want. Which of course is wrong.Might end up with being fine with how I look and okay-ish how people see me, with not really feeling the need to conform to something (unless it is for want) and being okay with myself. Some fluidity, some non-binaryness and some bi-instead of pan seems to fit me (the inclusive kind of 2+ whatever; with some silly reasons for why pan doesn’t fit me)
That said, seems not everyone sometimes thinks about being another gender or having different physical make up, huh? Was quite surprised to hear that. Reminded me of how not everyone experienced moments of depression in uni.
Queer representation in media does make me quite happy. I noticed, the majority of media moments in which I felt emotional were related to that.
Met a
qt-pie who I think is nice, but who has a much different connection speed. It feels as if she wants a lot of emotion quite quickly and also tried labels quite quickly and I am more waiting for the seeds to sprout in my heart and connection as well as familiarity to blossom, so not sure how to deal with that in a nice way (like figuring out what we want to do with each other takes a much more prioritized place than what labels would be, like the “what do you/me/we want” and “what do we do about it” and “in what way” with “which means”? instead of labels).Confused
What’s going on?
Hard to explain, just bisexual stuff
i think that explains it perfectly actually
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hi everyone! sorry i forgot yesterday
doing well today. almost done electro for my face, finally stopped being lazy and epilated my arms and legs, got a new nose piercing, and i’m getting my hair dyed pink again tomorrow 😎
i fly out in in a few weeks to do some gay shit too
omggg thats awesome! congrats!!
thank you!
Noticing more and more how my moments of gender euphoria are when people are uncertain about where I lie on a gender binary.
same
Its tricky but i love when it happens
Same! It’s such a good feeling!
Even though my hope is to one day “pass” as a man, I relate to this!
When I bind, wear masc clothing, and leave a bit of my stubble, I’ve had a couple instances where I can tell people were like
because of my gender presentation, and that alone gives me so much joy!Even if I can never pass, confusing the cishets and not being automatically assumed to be a woman would be an okay place to land, too.
This coming Tuesday is my one year HRT anniversary!!
Hell yeah! For me that was about when things started getting real heh.
God I hope so. I mean I’ve loved it so far but it has been a bit slow in some aspects, like I’ve still got like next to no breast growth
Unfortunately that’s the thing that takes the longest 😭 I didn’t notice much for the first two years or so really. These days I’m a C cup and am so happy, so patience is key!
don’t forget to take real measurements and use the bra size calculators! C cups are in reality rather small and properly sized bras fit so much better!
(if you’re already doing this, carry on)
yeah, I’ve been measured a couple times in addition to doing it myself. I’m sized properly.
a word of advice: if a woman describes to you a part of her body she is really happy with the size of, don’t come along and call their breasts “rather small” 🙃
sorry didn’t mean it like that. a lot of people don’t know to get measured properly and end up using bras that are too small cause companies want to make money off of fewer sizes.
I figured as much, maybe just err on the side of not making comments about people’s body size or shape.
you are right though, companies don’t want to make a good variety of sizes. I was stuck in a couple sizes that were super hard to find for a while. now I can just get a cheap bra at target if I need, which came in handy on a trip recently
Did your brain pog out immediately when you started on it? I’ve heard it’s like a switch flips and that seems super affirming
Results may vary but yeah it’s dope
Yeah, the first day starting it was one of the best days in my entire life. The excitement kind of died down a little over the following week as it became normal to me, but like it’s change my emotions so fucking much. It’s like putting glasses on or something like that, it’s a lot clearer. I laugh and smile so much more, but I also cry a lot more
this is very compellingIt was the same for me, I could tell I was mad or sad or content but now I can put words to what’s making me feel that way and emotions have much more nuance than pre-HRT which were like just one of 4 categories and that’s it.
sneaking into the queer mega on a fridayShooould be able to sleep with my roommate tonight (non sexual) which is good
Been feeling a lot less like :the-deserter: when thinking about/talking about transmisogyny lately, which is a pretty good sign. Was getting pretty misanthropic for a bit after my most recent breakup, but I’m starting to get myself rolling again (and much less likely to instantly alienate TME people, lol)
Been a real tough week. Just grieving my relationship and don’t know what the future holds for me. My transphobic parents who I’m not out to are coming to town also. I’m gonna have to talk to them generally about their transphobia, it’s gonna suck though I’m sure I’m gonna hear a lot of bullshit I don’t need.
Honestly if anyone has any ideas for changing people’s minds on transphobia, please let me know. I’ve kinda gone from “maybe I’ll tell them” to “I’m probably not going to come out to them, and I may just ghost them for a while”. Ig we’ll see how it goes this week
I’m really hoping to be happier with how I look by the end of next year. I should be finishing up hair removal and surgery by then. My partner said they were ok with me having sex with other people, and I would like to have some sort of FWB relationship, but I don’t feel at all comfortable enough in myself to do that.
This guy from grindr told me he doesn’t want to meet up anymore
Playing both sides so that I end up on top (hehe) doesn’t seem to work out
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I’ve been eyeballing Norway as a potential place to move in the future… Fuk. I’m hoping to go further north because I don’t tolerate heat well and I want to leave the US, but it seems there’s not any good safe havens for us in the EU either.
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Congrats! And I hope it goes well
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good luck coming out to them! and congrats on escaping from the #1 hell-state! pro tip: the midwest is cheap to live (even in the cities other than Chicago) and has better wages than the south, and the cities there tend to be better for trans acceptance! i made that move a couple years ago and im so happy i did. i actually have a chance of owning a home before im middle aged! i kinda want to move further north midwest to Minneapolis! seems like one of the best places in amerika to live for trans folks, and people in general
