Gross. Accurate. Took me way too long to understand why my friend’s dad was acting the way he was around 13-17. Decades later and it still sickens me.
I remember how creepy it was to see that once the girls in my class got boobs (around 8th grade, 13-14 yo) full on adults would start hitting on them. I recall seeing a few class mates in a local park, all 3 were 13 I think, they still looked like little girls, it’s just that now they had boobs and wore bras. So I see these 3 girls, each sitting in the lap of an 18-20 yo dude, and making out…
As a kid I recall seeing it and thinking “wtf is wrong with those guys?”
As an adult I wonder wtf the fuck is wrong with those guys.
If “he’s got a car and he’s dead mature, like” is your main selling point, you need a better selling point. And to not be a fucking nonce.
In the 90s we didn’t even know what a paedophile was. I don’t recall even seeing that word before Sarah Payne was murdered.
It took a while for UK residents to get used to this new exciting word.
Hopefully today’s kids are a bit more aware…
Oh wow that article’s a blast from the past
jfc what’s wrong with people
I live in a country where the age of consent is 14, and this shit is still pretty common. I voted Fidesz because I thought they’d fix the situation, by rising it. They added a close-in-age exception, so if you’re 17, you can prey on 12 year olds.
I hope that’s the last time you vote Fidesz
Yeah, it was 2010. My most regretted action.
The day that change was announced, I was so angry, I shaked and looked like that veiny guy in the meme, also didn’t sleep a single minute that night.
I’m sorry you had to deal with that! Wishing the best for 2026!
My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didn’t ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
What an idiot.
Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
Could be a gay couple and it’s young men
True. I made an assumption, you have a point.
Thank god we’ve achieved clarity after addressing the assumption
No idea. He gave 5k to one before he kicked me out. What was our house is for sale now though.
Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn’t being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.
being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you
Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13… Learn to stab.
I learned a lot about women wearing ice pick-sized hair pins in their hats during the early 20th century for this very purpose.
There was even a song called Never Go Walking Without Your Hatpin.
Can confirm, had my first sexual encounter when I was 5 and he was 18.
Fuck I am so, so sorry. That is so fucked up and way too fucking common.
Fucking great band.
For girls, it isn’t the age, it is when they start developing breasts
yea, i said 13 to mirror the post, but you’re right
When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
Gross.
Be a little nicer to them, they got rejected for some old dude!
Hah. I know likely comedic misunderstanding but, in case it was not clear, the 27-year-old pedo was the gross one.
Don’t worry, I got what you meant. I assume the other poster did as well, but had to make the joke haha.
They deserved it. They should have known to wait 13 years to date a 14 year old. The equation is 1/2 your age +1.
… The formula is 1/2 your age + 7 tho.
So for that 27 year old dating a teenager it would certainly not be okay. 27/2=13.5+7 which i would generously round down to 20 years of appropriate minimum age.
I think they’re being sarcastic…
27/2+1=14,5 so don’t think i can agree with this ancient wisdom.
They got the formula wrong.
Half your age +7 is the correct one. Works surprisingly well.
it’s transcended “works well” to “has literally become the cultural standard,” IMO.
My wife’s sister dated a guy in his 30s when she was 19.
So much trauma for a decade.
I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I’ve been in a relationship with my current partner who’s my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there’s some karma there.
I’m sure that if I had better friends and wasn’t so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn’t have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.
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Are you seriously slut shaming a 14-year-old who was groomed by a 27-year-old? Using a sexist misconception no less?
That’s fucked up
Maybe they were referring to the penis side of the groomer?
One can only hope.
15 years of marriage and four kids later, there’s no noticeable difference in vagina clearance. Please stop saying this shit.
↑ mods pls ban
Been a snitch your whole life ?
You been a misogynist fuck your whole life?
Brother, your comment having been removed has nothing to do with someone asking for you to be banned. Back off
FYI - real vaginas don’t stretch like flesh lights.
That’s not how it works.
I accidentally ended up with a very young lady. I know how this will sound, and all I can do is assure everyone that, at least for my part, everything I say is the absolute truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
I went to college late, I was 23 by the time I applied to college, and turned 24 shortly after starting classes. My birthday is in the first quarter, or so, of the year.
Anyways. I think I was in my second year of college when I met this girl, I don’t even remember how I met her honestly; it wasn’t a dating app, those things barely existed at the time and I haven’t ever used one; I just haven’t seen the need… Anyways, everything seems cool, she’s telling me she’s 17 and has a bday coming up. At this point I’m 24/25, and I’m thinking that’s a bit young, but since she’s basically 18 at this point, I don’t really see a problem with it… Anyways, birthday happens, Yay, and life goes on. After a few months as things get more and more complicated, as happens in most relationships, I come to find out that her birthday, was her 17th birthday, she was 16 when we met. I’m suddenly very not ok with everything.
It didn’t last super long after that. She was also preggo with her exes kid and never told me. The relationship was only like 5-6 months long. She lost the kid, I believe it was a miscarriage, and I’m sad for her that happened, but too much weird bullshit and deception was happening so I called it off.
She wasn’t a good person. She’s on a short list of exes I don’t talk to anymore. Most of my exes I still consider good friends, even if I haven’t seen them in a long time. I’m in a stable, long term relationship with a more age appropriate partner, for… Gosh, it has to be 10 years now? Time flies. There’s… 6? ish years between our ages, and we met when I was 30-something… I’m much happier now. Heh.
This just sounds like you were misled and it was awkward. I don’t think you intended to chase young women.
When I was in high school in the 80s it was not uncommon for high school girls in higher grades to have adult men as boyfriends. One of my teachers in fact did it, and got put on leave for a while LOL.
I was hoping that’s how it came across, since that’s what happened. So thank you for the confirmation.
I’ve never been much for dating significantly younger women, since they’re usually a bit unpredictable. By the time my SO and I got together, we were established in our careers and just looking for someone that wouldn’t constantly stir up drama. Our relationship has thankfully been extremely drama free. If there’s a problem we talk about it like the adults we are.
I honestly question what one does when you are dating someone when you are 15 and 17 respectively, which is no big deal, but then it becomes 17 and 19? Like you aren’t really doing anything wrong, you’ve just had a relationship. But what’s the legal take on that?
I know someone and this happened to her son, and he ended up on a sex offender database because he was 18, she was 17, and she sent him a nude or something and then cried foul to her parents. I just wonder about these grey areas. Believe it or not there is a subreddit for registered sex offenders so they can try and figure out how to navigate the details of life, and clearly some of their crimes are more along those lines than preying upon an actual child. I don’t think you did anything wrong, I think you just got misled.
In the instance you specifically cite, depending on the laws in their specific jurisdiction, that can certainly happen. I’m aware that there are laws in some/many areas (honestly not sure how common it is), that I’ve heard referred to as “Romeo and Juliet” laws. They specifically exempt people from such charges if their ages are too similar.
Of course the specifics are going to depend on the laws in the specific jurisdiction where it happened, when it happened… But I’m aware such laws exist.
When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn’t her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
I remember that sort of shit. The girl I knew got divorced so many times after that.
Yeah in my high school, a girl I knew got into serious trouble for trying to bring her 25 year old boyfriend to junior prom, when she was 16. 😩 For some reason, the district allowed it. 😭😭
Cause the men in charge could relate
16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn’t make it right, but I can only guess the district thought “Well if it’s legal…” without thinking if it was appropiate.
It definitely wasn’t and it endangered the other students
16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn’t make it right, but I can only guess the district thought “Well if it’s legal…” without thinking if it was appropiate.
That’s not how age of consent works you uninformed denizen softening the ground for pedos.
Educate first, then loud blab on the internet.
In the US, age of consent varies by state. In most US states the age of consent to sex with someone who is not in a position of authority is 16. Often with a close in age exception. 18 gets used in US media so much because that’s what it is in CA and NY, and that’s where most media is made.
18 is also federal age of consent, but that only applies when an incident involves crossing state lines.
Your reference is your own comment? Shouldn’t somewhere down the chain there be a link explaining this? It would be nice for you to be right, but I don’t think you are.
If it were only about activities with other shouldn’t be of age people, then it makes no sense. Either they are allowed and it’s legal or it’s illegal for both of them but neither can be considered criminally responsible because neither can legally consent either.
There are stories constantly about someone older having relations with someone way too young but the jurisdiction has age of consent to make it ok.
My god, this place is overrun by petulant children who can’t do their own research and are criminally unaware of the laws surrounding this.
You want a link, here’s a link
also this
TLDR; it is immensely complex, varies country by country, but as a general rule of thumb, having sex with a minor whilst you yourself not being a minor will almost everywhere land you in trouble. As it should. ^applies to regular joe without powerful friends in powerful places only.^
Topic highly unsuited for one line response mediums like this new reddit.
Why do you start every comment with an insult? Their question was reasonable and they didn’t treat you the same. That really doesn’t make you sound as smart as you think it does, especially when you’re referencing yourself in your original comment, and the comment of your own that you referenced doesn’t actually clarify anything, it’s just another example of you insulting somebody and telling them that they’re wrong.
Besides, age of consent laws differ in how they work based on what country you are in, and not everyone is from your country. You’re expecting people to know shit they’re not reasonably expected to know, and you’re mad at them about it and being a child about it.
For example, the age of consent in the US state of Delaware is 18, but it is allowed for teenagers aged 16 and 17 to engage in sexual intercourse as long as the older partner is younger than 30
16 and 17 is still under the age of consent, but they have a special exception for partners under 30. So the age of consent is still exactly what people think it is
Circumstances of the relationship
Generally it still looks like for those jurisdictions the age of consent is pretty much what people think it is, however the bar for consent is much higher. The Pennsylvania example is closest to what you describe, but seems to be that they basically prosecute for some other crime because age of consent is low enough but they have other laws. Guessing it’s rooted in some provisions for young marriage but still able to prosecute premarital sex as corrupted morals.
In short to all these jurisdictions, just raise the damn age of consent instead of having all sorts of weird loopholes that make it sometimes ok for a 45 year old to get with a 14 year old.
I’m sorry, I don’t understand what’s going on here.
I saw that kind of thing too. I figured those girls were probably dating the popular guys our age. A while later I found out that not even those guys were dating them. It was the 20 to 30 somethings.
Hey, we’re name siblings!
At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
I know a guy who ended up in bed with a twelve year old. She didn’t look twelve and didn’t act twelve. He ended up going in to the military to flee. He didn’t have to worry because of course this same girl ended up pregnant in less than a year.
Her story was all too common. She had been abused and trafficked from a very young age and had associated approval through sex. When this all came out her mom and step dad faced no consequences. They went out of their way to try to punish her. She ended up getting court ordered counseling which despite the parents continuing to try to interfere she got better.
She eventually ended up married to a pretty decent guy and they left for parts unknown a few years later. I don’t think she was quite eighteen when they left.
The scumbag parents are still around. They are considered fine christians in the community. After all they asked god for forgiveness. Not their victim mind you but god, so its all okay.
Some girl when I was in middle school, 14ish, used to get picked up by some tatted up 20 something, pretty sure he was at least 25 but no idea. We thought he was like an uncle or something. Nope, turns out he was her boyfriend. Pretty sure that guy went to prison for meth related activities.
Pretty sure that guy went to prison for math related activities.
I need to sleep
So did the meth guy, but for different reasons
He calculated the odds, but boy he was bad at math.
That’s legal in most states, but not weird in none of them.
Yeah, it’s legal here.
In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was “dating” a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
Back when I was 13 I was jealous because the “worldly” older guys got the girls …but the time I was that worldly age, I couldn’t believe how gross the guys looking at young teens were.
Now I’m old and everyone under 30 looks way too young…as it should.
This is actually a destabilizing piece of society. Younger men become disaffected when older men, who are better partners, pick up much younger women (I am talking only about adults.). Younger women are then competing with older women for more established men, which can destroy families.
Largely, we have fetishized youth so much that this isn’t something that will correct itself. I suppose the standards of beauty can change again, as they always do, but for now we are stuck with a real problem.
You’re not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.
I’m a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I’m not the best looking guy out there but I’m certainly not the worst either… And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people’s attention, romantically.
This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.
I thought wars were for oil?
*lube
Wars seem to predate oil by … a few thousand years.
Doesn’t oil just kinda happen in part of Canada?
As in, at the surface and readily used? Yes and no. Sure, there was some amount of oil at the surface, but it’s very low grade and mixed into the soil. This presentation has an image on the first page to give you an idea of what they’re starting with. It looks more like asphalt than oil (and is very similar). In fact, this stuff is so difficult to extract that, even though it was known about in the 18th century (by Western civilization), it wasn’t mined until 1960.
competing with grown men
competing with grown conservatives. the list is almost to 1500 examples.
Question: Oh, you think conservatives are pedophiles? Give me 1,500 examples.
Answer: (your comment)
I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.
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Bruh wtf💀
That was in impressively poor taste.
why? it’s obviously a dark humour joke that hints at the true problem, because it’s an absurd statement
kids obviously cannot be sexy. that you interpret it as anything other than an absurd statement reflects on yourself
you do realize that you’re in shitposts, right?
Ah classic. Joke didn’t land? Blame the audience.
Lemmings are famously uptight
I’m just impressed that I haven’t been shit on yet for expressing this opinion
on reddit I’d have been mass downvoted, told to kms, and banned. have been for similar things.
I can’t wait for the day Reddit fucking dies, seriously, I want to have discussions on LEmmy that aren’t just politics
I did say it was impressive lmao
If you want an actual opinion https://lemmy.world/comment/18414842
I saw the joke on Sickipedia.net circa 2010, maybe it should have stayed there.
Sometimes, there are downsides to being on an instance that disables downvotes.
I gave him mine for you.
You’re doing the FSM’s work.
R’amen
I got you.
wait, blahaj disallows downvotes? why’s that
Probably the same thing that YouTube did where they hid dislikes because they “inspired negativity” or whatever when generally downvotes on Lemmy are “damn that’s a really shit take and most people think so, do better.”
There’s a post explaining it somewhere, but IIRC, the reasoning is that due to the population and purpose of creating the instance in the first place, it’s to help protect people from brigading and the like.
Personally, it’s the only thing I don’t like about having an account here. The idea behind the choice is solid, but it does make it difficult to actually know what people think of a comment or post.
It’s why even though I’m a transbabe myself, I don’t use blahaj. I approve of protecting transfolks, but I don’t approve of overprotection to the point where it feels like I’m in chains…
I’m not say that’s 100% the case at blahaj, but I’ve had bad experiments with Left Leaning groups that meant well, but suffocated me or worse, turned on me when they suspected I was a problem. So I don’t wanna risk it.
For the record I’m a leftist myself, and I’m not blaming Leftist Ideology itself persay, just…
Do you get what I’m saying?
Yep, and that’s one advantage Lemmy has over other social media. Don’t like the way an instance is handled? Make an account somewhere else and you most likely won’t even lose the content from that instance.
I get it. Never felt really welcome in those spaces, even though I’m trans and very much on the left as well.
I don’t disagree with the theory, but I think it doesn’t work in practice on a platform like lemmy due to the federation. But that’s a cool thing about the fediverse is you can use an instance you like, and while you can’t just move everything, if an instance changes or you want to change instances, you can. Or instances can evolve. Or you can even start your own, if you want full control and are willing to put in the work
Exactly. If it bothered me enough to care, I could easily just set up on another instance, or even have multiple accounts on different instances. That’s one advantage Lemmy has over other social media platforms.
I’ve seen that joke in somebody’s stand up somewhere. Can’t recall where.
Doesn’t seem to have landed well with the audience here, lol!
I think it was in a Jimmy Carr special?
It does sound like his kind of joke, but I’m not going to Google “sexy kids” to find out!
holocaust guy?
I think that’s Hitler
Lmao
Oh what the fuck
That thought could’ve stayed inside your head bud
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Charitably: This is the kind of joke that only lands if your audience knows you’re 100% not a pedo.
And that’s why you don’t do racist, sexist or pedo jokes online. No matter how obviously non serious you think you are, some idiot will agree with you.
Edit: added missing word
I’m the only one in my friend group that watches anime and it led to them making lots of pedo jokes at my expense. I’m not a pedo and my friends know that. It’s just a running joke. And then they make a joke when someone new is around and everyone needs to explain I’m not actually a pedo…
That sounds like people who don’t support you.
Yes, my friends don’t support me. Thanks random internet person.
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These kinds of jokes used to be made a lot. The premise is that it makes no sense to make the joke if you are a pedo… so I would assume they just made a joke that is not seen the same way these days. South Park would 100% make this joke now though, and (almost) no one would care.
Ah well, see the problem there is you’re not accounting for people who aren’t funny.
Reporting a shitpost on shitpost lol.
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Lulz
Whoosh
jesus christ go back to reddit
Children are responsible for the crimes comited by adults?
Victims are responsible of the crimes?
you guys are really proving that it’s not any better around here than on reddit on something, still plenty of dumb people
Average internet user exposed
We are on lemmy shitpost, so I wouldn’t take it seriously
Lemmy moment
Lefties, amirite?
Don’t hang around so many republicans and the competition would thin out.
It’s hard for 13 year olds to emigrate.
But they can get deported easily
While rape culture is huge among Republicans and dating young women is more popular among them, this issue is far more vast and definitely involves men across the political spectrum.
Until this obsession with youth=beauty and women under 130lbs being the beauty standard changes, this will still be a problem.
I’m not giving democrats or anyone a pass on this. I just really hate republicans.
Understandable!
