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    62 days ago

    I don’t know about it being spicy, but I disagree. People are not their genitals.

    To clarify further, do you think being attracted to trans men (assuming you’re a guy) is gay?

    The mental exercise here seems to either go one of two ways for me. Either you just consider gender, or you have a relationship orientation that’s separate from physical orientation.

    I honestly don’t know where I fall on this particular topic. I’ve known very few trans people at all (at least in person- obviously I’ve seen tons of them in different movies and shows and YouTube channels), so I haven’t really had a chance to figure out how I feel about them for the sake of relationships.

    I think either would understand me in different ways (since they either are or were treated as guys).

    But if I had to guess, I think I would still prefer trans women to trans men as far as being in a relationship with one.

    The one thing I do know is that if I ever did fuck a dude, it would be a trans dude.

    But really I’m more concerned with how I feel about the person than I am about their junk. There so much more to a relationship than how fucking works and I’d much rather just be totally in love with the person vs in love with their crotch.

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      11 day ago

      Ya, being with a trans man would be a lot less gay than a trans woman. Confusing, and probably worthy of the label queer but certainly not nearly as gay as actually sucking dick.

      I agree being in a relationship with either of them would be confusing but the simple fact is I don’t like dick… I also don’t like pussy with a beard and chest hair, but I’m not in a place where I have to pick.

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        Hmmm I wanted to say you’re adding qualifications to the definition of straight, but I had to check myself and the definitions I found did indeed say “sex”, not “gender”.

        I hadn’t ever looked at it before and I thought it meant gender. Maybe I’m more queer than I thought. 🤔

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          11 day ago

          Well, I appreciate you for holding a civil discussion from a position of good faith nonetheless. This is quite rare on the internet and unique among the commenters replying to my original post.

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            11 day ago

            Yeah, I’m trying to work on it specifically.

            I haven’t seen the other threads (when I first replied, there was at most 1 other reply), but I was ready to drive that meaning at you, but when I went to get the evidence to back it up, the evidence surprisingly didn’t favor it.

            So I had to go back to the drawing board. Even as far away as the drawing board was. By which I mean my assumed sexuality’s definition.